Generated by All in One SEO v4.9.10, this is an llms.txt file, used by LLMs to index the site. # Miriam Grace Psychotherapist, Author and Podcaster ## Sitemaps - [XML Sitemap](https://miriamgrace.uk/sitemap.xml): Contains all public & indexable URLs for this website. ## Posts - [Blog](https://miriamgrace.uk/blog/) - [Menopause is not the end](https://miriamgrace.uk/menopause-is-not-the-end/) - What if your life ended at midlife but you found yourself still alive? Most of us know that writing can be therapeutic - especially someone like me, a psychotherapist who holds free weekly silent Journalling sessions due to the belief that it changes the individual’s day (ergo life). I’ve had an unusual decade. Ten years - [A hand grenade in your marriage: Mid-Life Lesbian Coming Out](https://miriamgrace.uk/a-hand-grenade-in-your-marriage-mid-life-lesbian-coming-out/) - When I fell in love with a woman after 25 years of marriage to a man, I felt as if someone had thrown a hand grenade into my rather well-cultivated and curated life. It certainly blew up my perception of myself. It led me to consider whether I am the sort of person who could - [Screen Time - not just about the kids](https://miriamgrace.uk/screen-time-not-just-about-the-kids/) - While the dangers of social media and teens, and screen time for children, are hotly debated, many of us in the midlife demographic will be reflecting inwardly, guiltily, about our own doom scrolling habits. I've been looking into dopamine, addiction and how to "hack" this trend for our wellbeing. In April I'm launching a 30 - [The thing Later-in-Life Lesbians don’t get](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-thing-later-in-life-lesbians-dont-get/) - Renee Nicole Goode thought that if she was unthreatening and polite that she could handle a conversation with aggressive, armed men. Women learn from a very young age how to handle men. This varies according to their unique circumstances, but defaults are formed and embedded at a young age. I do not know of a - [No will power? How psychological shifts can help when nothing else does](https://miriamgrace.uk/pandemic-pounds-how-psychological-shifts-can-help-when-nothing-else-does/) - Click the picture for the full Guardian article! Oh Gwyneth! What were you thinking! Ha ha Why is it so hard to do the right thing when it comes to losing weight? This is a question that so many of my clients have asked me and this is a partial answer that has taken me - [When words speak louder than actions: the language of love](https://miriamgrace.uk/when-words-speak-louder-than-actions-the-language-of-love/) - I was always led to believe the saying, 'actions speak louder than words'. There is no doubting the logic in this statement. However, through my work with couples and studying my own and other people's 'languages of love', I have come to realise that actions speak louder for some than others, depending on their language - [Three common mistakes people make about emotions](https://miriamgrace.uk/three-common-mistakes-people-make-about-emotions/) - People often deny their feelings. They don’t just avoid anger and grief, some avoid excitement, love, joy. This can be due to a false concept of ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ emotions. Every emotion has its purpose. We should fear them no more than a sneeze or a fart. They are just consequences of being alive. Unfortunately - [Hi-jacked by Fear](https://miriamgrace.uk/hi-jacked-by-fear-2/) - Do you ever find yourself saying or behaving in a way that takes you right off track from who you believe you are and want to be? As if you got in your car one morning to go somewhere beautiful and someone held a gun to your head and said, “No, drive straight to hell - [Mud Season: The muddle, the mess and the maybes](https://miriamgrace.uk/mud-season-the-muddle-the-mess-and-the-maybes/) - Sometimes we believe that if we can make better decisions we will improve things and we forget that part of life is the muddle, the mess and the maybes. "We call this the mud season." my friend Nancy said, when we were discussing the energy of spring. In spring we plant seeds in hope of - [Do Less, Be More](https://miriamgrace.uk/do-less-be-more/) - CLICK ON THE PICTURE FOR MY VIDEO: "The Paradoxical Theory of Change" ..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place if - [Worth Doing Half Assed](https://miriamgrace.uk/worth-doing-half-assed/) - “If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing half assed.” (KC Davis) I quoted to my partner as we got back into the car and we laughed. All day, a day of blue skies and glorious sunshine, I had wanted to get to the sea, to lie on the beach, and maybe go into the - [Pause Gently: Hold Lightly](https://miriamgrace.uk/pause-gently-hold-lightly-2/) - Do you have your dreams, or do your dreams have you? Do you have your feelings or do your feelings have you? Do you have your job or does your job have you? Hold it lightly, then you can put it down when you have had enough. Miriam Grace I’m aware that sometimes we have - [Great Expectations](https://miriamgrace.uk/great-expectations/) - Gestalt 'Prayer' I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it - [Connection, disconnection, adjustment](https://miriamgrace.uk/connection-disconnection-adjustment/) - Gestalt Prayer I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it - [So tell me what you want, what you really, really want ....](https://miriamgrace.uk/so-tell-me-what-you-want-what-you-really-really-want/) - So if, as explored last time, we suspend expectations, where does that leave us in our relationships? Does this mean we should expect nothing from our partners, our friends, our family? If they are 'doing their thing' and I am doing mine, how will we meet each other? For me as a therapist, this is where in - [Tribute to our father](https://miriamgrace.uk/tribute-to-our-father/) - I wrote this piece and read it today at my father's funeral. Our Father – Tribute by Miriam Grace Our Father. Or in Latin Pater-noster. I wonder how many of you have been on the paternoster in the Arts Tower in Sheffield? And maybe you have travelled on the paternoster with David? One of the - [The benefits of exquisite longing and of hope](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-benefits-of-exquisite-longing-and-of-hope/) - I've recently been reflecting on loneliness, yearning and longing, feelings that my clients often report and with which I am very familiar. Sometimes I long for another person, whether real or imaginary, and I've taken to considering, "Who is it, I long for?". Is it that person, or is it the feeling I get when - [The Paradoxical Theory Of Change 2020](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-paradoxical-theory-of-change-2020/) - CLICK ON THE PICTURE FOR MY NEW VIDEO: "The Paradoxical Theory of Change" ..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place - [My 3- 2- 1 Survival Method](https://miriamgrace.uk/my-3-2-1-survival-method/) - Let me introduce the 3-2-1 Survival Method©, which I have developed over three decades of working with clients with depression, anxiety, chronic illness, and in emergency situations of overwhelm and stress. While I was in my own situation of illness I was able to put this method into written form so that I could share - [‘A Paradox of Neuroses and Wisdom’: reflections from my yoga mat](https://miriamgrace.uk/a-paradox-of-neuroses-and-wisdom-reflections-from-my-yoga-mat/) - संकल्प ‘I am well, I am happy, I am peaceful and at ease’, I said to myself, three times, focusing on my heart. I say this three times before my yoga nidra practice and three times at the end. Its called a Sankalpa in yoga, and means a positive intention or focus that you wish to - [The Emotional Body Video Chats](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-emotional-body-video-chats/) - See our free chats on youtube about The Emotional Body: https://youtu.be/E1-1I1eSr4c https://youtu.be/EI-sI9dpUE8 https://youtu.be/WQQeYdcJUFs https://youtu.be/CrqaQv-fZWw - [Psychotherapy Without Words](https://miriamgrace.uk/psychotherapy-without-words-2/) - Originally posted on May 24, 2012 by Miriam Grace When the tissues and structures of the body are engaged and held in stillness… In that stillness there is opportunity for change and enhanced self-awareness. Phil Greenfield I attended Phil Greenfield’s http://www.corealignment.co.uk/ talk on Zero Balancing nine years ago. I know that I have learned and developed so much - [I thought inhibition was 'bad'?: Therapeutic restraint as a path to the self](https://miriamgrace.uk/i-thought-inhibition-was-bad-therapeutic-restraint-as-a-path-to-the-self/) - Avoiding and repressing feelings is ultimately not helpful. Learning to face our feelings and gaining confidence in our ability to manage them is a life skill. Therapy can help you do this if feelings are particularly tough. If you’ve experienced counselling or psychotherapy, you’ll be aware that there is an emphasis on expressing and allowing - [Here and Now: the timeless, powerful and effective Gestalt teaching](https://miriamgrace.uk/here-and-now-the-timeless-powerful-and-effective-gestalt-teaching/) - Often reframed as mindfulness, acceptance, focussing or compassion focused therapy, and having borrowed from buddhism, Zen, Reichian therapy, the Gestalt practice of starting where we are has retained its power for nearly 60 years, for centuries if we acknowledge that this is pre-psychoanalytic. Basic counselling training teaches counsellors how to provide a safe space: on - [No going back: conscious re-entry and post-pandemic living](https://miriamgrace.uk/no-going-back-conscious-re-entry-and-post-pandemic-living/) - How can we re-enter the world post-lockdown in a way that is chosen, powerful and reflective of our growth in the last year? This is the question I have been inviting supervisees, clients and most of all my Nourish & Nurture (online women's wintering) group as we approach loosening lockdown restrictions in the UK. We - [Be Reasonable! Reasonable Adjustment and The Middle Ground](https://miriamgrace.uk/be-reasonable-reasonable-adjustment-and-the-middle-ground/) - It struck me today when I was in a meeting discussing work adjustments for colleagues with childcare responsibilities during lockdown, that maybe we all need ‘reasonable adjustments’ right now. It was an unusual perspective for me as a disabled person to not be the one asking for reasonable adjustment, and to watch as a colleague - [Blue Monday 2021: Pandemic mental health is different this year](https://miriamgrace.uk/blue-monday-2021-pandemic-mental-health-is-different-this-year/) - This article was originally published on Medium in January 2021: click here to view there. There is no doubt about it, the pandemic is different this year to last year, and our psychological responses are different this year to last year. Although we learned many lessons about how to cope well and even thrive in - [SAD: should we attribute lower mood in winter to a 'disorder'?](https://miriamgrace.uk/sad-should-we-attribute-lower-mood-in-winter-to-a-disorder/) - What if Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is not a disorder? And what if winter 2020 is not simply the biggest challenge to mood management, but a great opportunity to address the impact of winter on your mood? Before I get stuck in, I must declare this as my own opinion as a therapist with decades - [Feeling safe in uncertain times](https://miriamgrace.uk/feeling-safe-in-uncertain-times/) - Once again it is through my own personal therapy that I first came to work with a concept that has proved invaluable in my professional practice with clients and in my writing to support people during these times. The model has been powerful for me and for anyone who has had the ground taken out - [Just when I get my ducks in a row, in come the monkeys...](https://miriamgrace.uk/just-when-i-get-my-ducks-in-a-row-in-come-the-monkeys/) - There is no exit strategy. The monkeys have the balls and we don't know where they will be dropped. The frustration stage precedes the distress of the injustice and grief of loss. However, a deeper sense of internal safety grows within, once we learn to live with uncertainty. - [The Legitimacy of Responding Slowly](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-legitimacy-of-responding-slowly/) - Isn't it busy at the moment? Wonderful people setting up wonderful projects, everyone zooming and doing yoga, home schooling, street what's app groups and people launching their own channels and podcasts. So much to help people from feeling dangerously lonely. Or maybe you're like me, and countless people I've spoken to, who are responding at - [Worrying Effectively](https://miriamgrace.uk/worrying-effectively/) - Not worrying during the current crisis is not only unrealistic but is also unhelpful. In this blog I will explain how to make worry your servant and not your master, how to use it to help you and not let it undermine you. Stress is a stimulus that provokes response and action and is therefore - [GUILTY!](https://miriamgrace.uk/guilty/) - The difference between guilt, shame and anger, the pleasure of being a responsible adult and 3 Things to remind yourself of, when you feel guilty or ‘bad’. So you feel guilty? That’s great. Feeling guilt is a sign that you have working conscience. It is a response to witnessing suffering. When we see starving children, - [Are you ready?](https://miriamgrace.uk/are-you-ready/) - A question I am often asked is what someone can do to retain progress? For example, why do they keep breaking resolutions and diet plans and what do I advise? My approach is different to most coaching. At the outset we look at the core person, who they are, what their values, expressions and needs - [THIS is the main thing](https://miriamgrace.uk/this-is-the-main-thing/) - The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing. Stephen Covey I've often used this quote with my clients, it's a whole week's topic in my coaching group starting this autumn, and today I've been using it myself. I'm sure many of you are familiar with the spinning plates analogy, and in - [The Way of Imperfection](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-way-of-imperfection-2/) - “It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.” ― Anonymous, The Bhagavad Gita Last week, I was reflecting on how empathy is a powerful re-iteration of the paradoxical theory of change. Instead of saying, “Don’t be like that”, to ourselves or others, we sit with - ['Being Positive' and 'Finding Joy' are different](https://miriamgrace.uk/what-if-positivity-is-not-helpful/) - Trying to be positive and ‘better’ to make others feel better is what I’m giving up for Lent. ‘Being positive’ has to be one of my pet peeves. Finding joy, however, is my absolute favourite thing. Can you tell he difference? I feel I can only write about finding joy if this is within the - [Pyjamas and Pearls: Enjoying life with all we have](https://miriamgrace.uk/pyjamas-and-pearls-enjoying-life-with-all-we-have/) - I'm republishing a February blog this week. I used to do a Wednesday Morning Breakfast Interview in my blog, with various practitioners or teachers. You may remember Julie Creffield from The Fat Girl’s Guide to Running or Phillipa Wilson from Oakwood Yoga to name a couple (full list at the end). As I have so - [Is it helpful to talk with clients about the psychological aspects of their pain?](https://miriamgrace.uk/is-it-helpful-to-talk-with-clients-about-the-psychological-aspects-of-their-pain/) - I am a psychotherapist, with a specialism in trauma over the last 30 years, who has long been fascinated with the mind-body link and how we can encourage ease of physical movement with psychological and physical experiential exercises. I am also currently living with chronic pain since multiple abdominal surgeries, cancer and chemotherapy. Recently I - [Same Is NOT Equal: why being non-judgemental does your LGBT clients a disservice](https://miriamgrace.uk/same-is-not-equal-why-being-non-judgemental-does-your-lgbt-clients-a-disservice/) - I had [a therapist] that said being gay was "no big deal" to her. She was trying to comfort me that she wouldn't be judgmental but when you’ve dealt with homophobia you also want it to be a big deal to your therapist. I was trying to talk about how it wrecked my life and - [Dads are cool, Mums are like literally so stressy: Why mothers often get the worst of teenagers](https://miriamgrace.uk/dads-are-cool-mums-are-like-literally-so-stressy-why-mothers-often-get-the-worst-of-teenagers/) - I have been privileged to have been in the position to support many mothers having difficulties with, and experiencing pain in relation to, their teenagers over the years and in spite of being retired from psychotherapeutic work after 30 years of practice, this involvement has continued informally to a much larger degree since retirement within - [To Boldly Want](https://miriamgrace.uk/to-boldly-want/) - How often have you been told “I want doesn’t get”? Today I want to talk about wanting and needing. And the importance of saying and of knowing, “I want“. That opening phrase, is problematic because it already hints at the fact that we should feel ashamed of wanting and even more so of expressing it. - [This year you do not have to be good](https://miriamgrace.uk/this-year-you-do-not-have-to-be-good/) - “This New Year decide to accept nothing you don’t deserve”. I read this week in a jauntily, much shared, quote on Facebook. As a gestalt therapist I found this statement so disturbingly unhelpful, trite and shallow and I had to ponder for several hours how I wanted to respond. I decided I wanted to respond - [Top Tips for December](https://miriamgrace.uk/top-tips-for-december/) - I have dedicated December as 'Look after yourself month' at Blue Skies. MIND - as a psychotherapist I know December is often a very stressful month for people with most of my referrals coming in January (straight after Christmas). Loss is experienced more acutely too. Family tensions and expectations, being busier at work and - [Surviving Overwhelm or Exhaustion](https://miriamgrace.uk/surviving-overwhelm-or-exhaustion/) - Let me introduce the 3-2-1 Survival Method©, which I have developed over three decades of working with clients with depression, anxiety, chronic illness, and in emergency situations of overwhelm and stress. While I have been in my own situation of illness I have been able to put this method into written form so that I - [The question that is so important and the answer that is not.](https://miriamgrace.uk/what-if-you-didnt-have-long-to-live/) - What if you didn't have long to live? I remember sitting with a client during a session while she was waiting for results of a cancer test. “What would you do if the results are positive and you have two years to live ?”, I dared to ask the unspoken question. “Quit my job, travel, - [Hello world!](https://miriamgrace.uk/hello-world-2/) - Welcome to WordPress. This is your first post. Edit or delete it, then start writing! - [Poking death with a stick, being a goddess and related activities](https://miriamgrace.uk/poking-death-with-a-stick-being-a-goddess-and-related-activities/) - I tread a path with one foot in one world and one in the other and if you see either just my complaints and suffering or just my peace and curiosity you are missing a part. It's both, it always was. Miriam Grace 2017 I see it as if I'm prodding Death with a stick - [Stop Investing In Getting Better – My Top Tip for Depression and more](https://miriamgrace.uk/stop-investing-in-getting-better-my-top-tip-for-depression-and-more/) - One of the most unkind things you can do to yourself when you are unwell with depression is to focus on getting better. Why? Depression is an illness that will run its course and when you are evaluating whether you’re any better or not you are constantly reinforcing a sense of failure and defeat. - [Monkeys and balls](https://miriamgrace.uk/monkeys-and-balls/) - Have you heard the story about the golf course in Calcutta? I think it goes something like this: After colonising India, the British in their wisdom decided that Calcutta needed a golf course. They built a beautiful course in a great location. However once opened, business was threatened as monkeys would invade the course, pick - [Why I won't be fighting my cancer](https://miriamgrace.uk/why-i-wont-be-fighting-my-cancer/) - Sometimes people talk about 'fighting' cancer or 'losing the battle' with cancer. Quite early on I realised this wasn't resonating with me. Aside from the fact that I am a pacifist and committed to non violence, I haven't ever been in a fight. I am not trained, or experienced or inclined to fight. I can't - [Loving On](https://miriamgrace.uk/loving-on/) - I stood on the wet sand with salt water splashing my sunglasses. It was a curious experience to feel a tug and and not to act. I couldn't always see my daughter as she fought her way through the breakers out into the sea. The waves were high and unpredictable... Years ago, on her second birthday - [Life Awakening](https://miriamgrace.uk/life-awakening/) - What is Life Awakening about? And how did I come to devise and write this concept? Life Awakening began, believe it or not, during training in CBT for Trauma, when I found myself sitting at a table next to a colleague on a training day. You could call it synchronicity, being in the right place - [Path to Serenity](https://miriamgrace.uk/path-to-serenity/) - Fill your bowl to the brim and it will spill. Keep sharpening your knife and it will blunt. Chase after money and security and your heart will never unclench. Care about people's approval and you will be their prisoner. Do your work, then step back. The only path to serenity. From the Tao Te Ching Give yourself - [I have the body of Wonder Woman!](https://miriamgrace.uk/i-have-the-body-of-wonder-woman/) - Do you remember the pose? Hands on hips, legs firmly planted a couple of feet apart, spine straight and head held high? Last Saturday, Dr. David Hamilton had us hold this position for two whole minutes, in his seminar on the Science of Self Love at the Tree of Life in Birmingham. Blood tests and - [Laughter is Soul Medicine](https://miriamgrace.uk/laughter-is-soul-medicine/) - Are you looking for a way to feel calmer and more balanced, to improve your health, your mood, or your connections with others? You might think that laughter is a superficial answer to your problems, but please take a few minutes to think again, while I tell you why I became a Laughter Yoga Leader - [Love: is it 'blind' or 'second sight'?](https://miriamgrace.uk/is-love-blind/) - A re-write of my 2014 blog written for Valentine's Day. I’m not a cynic and today is a good day to express my inner romantic and reflect on falling in love… I was with a client a few weeks ago discussing her relationship problems with her partner and we were remembering the stage in her - [Why Ho Ho Ho is the perfect affirmation for the Season!](https://miriamgrace.uk/why-ho-ho-ho-is-the-perfect-affirmation-for-the-season/) - It's for many good reasons that I have dedicated December as 'Look after yourself month' at Blue Skies. MIND - as a psychotherapist I know December is often a very stressful month for people with most of my referrals coming in January (straight after Christmas). Loss is experienced more acutely too. Family tensions and expectations, - [Hi-jacked by Fear](https://miriamgrace.uk/hi-jacked-by-fear/) - Do you ever find yourself saying or behaving in a way that takes you right off track from who you believe you are and want to be? As if you got in your car one morning to go somewhere beautiful and someone held a gun to your head and said, "No, drive straight to hell - [Miriam's Wednesday Breakfast Blog with Julie Creffield & The Fat Girls Guide to Running](https://miriamgrace.uk/miriams-wednesday-breakfast-blog-with-julie-creffield-the-fat-girls-guide-to-running/) - This morning I'm chatting to Julie Creffield the founder of The Fat Girls Guide to Running. I met Julie last month in London on a Hay House Writers Event and we swapped business cards. I was immediately taken with what Julie is doing, and I have NO INTENTION of running, I might add. There is - [The Paradoxical Theory of Change](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-paradoxical-theory-of-change-2/) - ..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place if one takes the time and effort to be what he is -- - [Miriam's Wednesday Breakfast Blog with Louise Edington](https://miriamgrace.uk/miriams-wednesday-breakfast-blog-with-louise-edington/) - My meeting with Louise is one of those strange synchronistic stories; Louise and I lived streets away from each other when our children were very young, yet (probably) never met. Years later we were introduced through my friend Imogen, when Louise was living in Utah! At this point Louise was helping the shy entrepreneur and - [Mind Magic](https://miriamgrace.uk/mind-magic/) - Take a class in magic this term... In exploring the Body-Mind link on our workshop last month, Imogen and I used some exercises to show how the thoughts we have, create different bodily responses, regardless of the truth of the thought. We simply asked the particpants of the workshop to think a phrase and say - [Miriam's Wednesday Breakfast Blog with Phillipa Wilson](https://miriamgrace.uk/miriams-wednesday-breakfast-blog-with-phillipa-wilson/) - This morning I am interviewing my lovely yoga teacher, Phillipa Wilson over breakfast. Phillipa works in Derby and I have asked her to put her class schedule in this interview as I'd love for people to experience the enrichment that yoga brings to my life. Phillipa is quite a special friend and I hope you - [Pause Gently: Hold Lightly](https://miriamgrace.uk/pause-gently-hold-lightly/) - Do you have your dreams, or do your dreams have you? Do you have your feelings or do your feelings have you? Do you have your job or does your job have you? Hold it lightly, then you can put it down when you have had enough. I wrote this sentence last week. I'm aware - [Meaningful Connection](https://miriamgrace.uk/meaningful-connection/) - In the last month I have attended two trainings : Personality Adaptations with Dr. Elinor Greenberg and Zero Balancing with Phil Greenfield. Both courses have taken me deeper into my quest to be able to understand difference and to respond to meeting the unique individual. Or from my heart, my quest to learn to love - [Wednesday Breakfast with Miriam Blog - with Phil Greenfield](https://miriamgrace.uk/wednesday-breakfast-with-miriam-blog-with-phil-greenfield/) - Wednesday Breakfast with Miriam Blog - with Phil Greenfield Hi today is my 'Wednesday Breakfast with Miriam Blog' and I'm chatting with Phil Greenfield about Zero Balancing and his book....'Unravelling - Letting Go, Getting Well' Good morning Phil, what are you eating for breakfast and what is your view as you eat? Hi Miriam. I'm sitting at home in - [Seeing through eyes of love](https://miriamgrace.uk/seeing-through-eyes-of-love/) - I’m not a cynic and today is a good day to express my inner romantic and reflect on falling in love… I was with a client a few weeks ago discussing her relationship problems with her partner and we were remembering the stage in her relationship of falling in love and questioning why this phase - [The Wisdom of Dreams](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-wisdom-of-dreams/) - I love working with my own dreams and with client dreams. In Gestalt therapy we are encouraged to see all aspects of the dream as part of the self. When we describe our dreams we are encouraged to connect with it using the present tense. I had that frustrating experience of knowing I had had - [Route Finding](https://miriamgrace.uk/route-finding/) - I am on a little adventure, exploring the Forest of Dean this week. It was while I was making friends with a borrowed Sat Nav on the journey, that I considered the ideas of trust of self, trust of authority and route finding. Initially I borrowed the Sat Nav as reassurance, as company, as protection - [Perfectly Being](https://miriamgrace.uk/perfectly-being/) - The greatest loss, that of oneself, may pass unnoticed. Kierkegaard Last time, I mentioned Transactional Analysis and the idea of "I'm not OK, You're OK" and "I'm OK, You're not OK". I would like to consider what we have to gain from the "I'm OK, You're OK" position. I left yesterday's post with a thought - [Being Perfect](https://miriamgrace.uk/being-perfect/) - We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are. The Talmud I have been aware this week of how much pressure some people put on themselves to be perfect. How dependent we can be at times on the approval of others. We might engage in external behaviours (such as people - [Smell the Roses](https://miriamgrace.uk/smell-the-roses/) - Instructions for living a life. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it. ― Mary Oliver I was walking along a busy city street last week, and I was busy myself, inside my head, when the scent of roses stopped me in my tracks and I had to reverse my steps to find the rose bush - [Without Judgment](https://miriamgrace.uk/without-judgment/) - Without judgment, take a minute to listen and to know. What do you feel right now? Notice your body, your tensions, where you hold. Bring you attention to your energy, your creative life force, is it lively or flat? There is no right or wrong answer, no way you ‘should’ be, just the truth of - [Words](https://miriamgrace.uk/words/) - Tell me that you're disappointed with the unfinished chores you see, but calling me 'irresponsible' is no way to motivate me. And tell me that you're feeling hurt when I say 'no' to your advances, but calling me a frigid man won't increase your future chances. Marshall Rosenberg Non-Violent Communication: A language of life http://www.cnvc.org/about/marshall-rosenberg.html, - [Psychotherapy Without Words](https://miriamgrace.uk/psychotherapy-without-words/) - When the tissues and structures of the body are engaged and held in stillness… In that stillness there is opportunity for change and enhanced self-awareness. Phil Greenfield I attended Phil Greenfield’s http://www.corealignment.co.uk/ talk on Zero Balancing this week. It seemed very timely following my experience with Authentic Movement therapy. One of the descriptions he used, regarding - [Dancing Without Choreography](https://miriamgrace.uk/dancing-without-choreography/) - Yesterday I spoke of dancing with ourselves, and finding our own natural rhythms, adjustments, fluidity of movements, that come out of listening to ourselves and our bodies. I wonder if it is co-incidence that as a society we have moved from dancing in couples to dancing individually in large groups? It seems a significant reflection - [Eyes Closed](https://miriamgrace.uk/eyes-closed/) - Dance like no one is watching... Last week I had a further valuable experience of ‘going within’ with eyes closed. I was experiencing a therapy called Authentic Movement Therapy on a workshop. I won’t explain all that we did on this training, but just describe that by the second half of the workshop we were - [Eyes Open](https://miriamgrace.uk/eyes-open/) - When Imogen http://www.imogenragone.net/blog/ was helping me with releasing the tension in my body during an Alexander Technique Lesson a couple of weeks ago. She observed that I closed my eyes while adjusting. I found that this helped me get a sense of my new position, that I could feel the difference in my body more easily. - [Popular](https://miriamgrace.uk/popular/) - It's all about popular! It's not about aptitude, it's the way you're viewed, so it's very shrewd to be, very very popular, like me! Popular from Wicked I make no excuse for quoting Wicked lyrics again, it's a wonderful musical and this song resonates for me and, I think, many people. The character is - [The Way of Imperfection](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-way-of-imperfection/) - “It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection.” ― Anonymous, The Bhagavad Gita Last week, I was reflecting on how empathy is a powerful re-iteration of the paradoxical theory of change. Instead of saying, "Don't be like that", to ourselves or others, we sit with - [An Archaeological Experience](https://miriamgrace.uk/an-archeological-experience/) - I've just returned from a family outing to Markeaton Park where we all took part in an archaeological excavation of the old hall. We clambered down into the trench where we were shown an old floor and with trowels and brushes we cleared away the soil and debris, carefully exposing the pattern of bricks beneath. - [The Paradoxical Theory of Change](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-paradoxical-theory-of-change/) - ..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place if one takes the time and effort to be what he is -- to - [The Discomfort Zone](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-discomfort-zone/) - The uncomfortable truth is we never did and never will learn anything within our comfort zone. UNRAVELLING - Letting Go, Getting Well Philip Greenfield www.theunravellingbook.com Yesterday I spoke about the difficulty in moving off a comfortable ledge when rock climbing. So I like this quote from my colleague and zero-balancer (the guy who fixes my - [The Unexamined Life](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-unexamined-life/) - A character in my favourite musical, Wicked, sings about 'Dancing through Life', he proclaims, why invite stress in? Stop studying strife And learn to live "the unexamined life".. As appealing as his approach may sound, we don't always have the choice to 'skim the surface'. Martin Israel writes in his book The Pain that Heals: The - [Reading the Signs](https://miriamgrace.uk/reading-the-signs/) - Please ensure your own oxygen mask is fitted before helping others. Onboard Flight Information Yesterday I wrote about overcoming the concerns we may have, about whether what we write or say is important, significant or clever enough, by allowing that others may be helped by what we have to say. Today I consider the part - [Going Public](https://miriamgrace.uk/going-public/) - When people start writing they think they’ve got to write something definitive … I think that is fatal. The mood to write in is, “This is quite an interesting story I’ve got to tell. I hope someone will be interested. Anyway it’s the best I can do for the present.” If one adopts that line ## Pages - [Miriam Grace. Psychotherapist, Author and Podcaster](https://miriamgrace.uk/) - Miriam Grace supports women through menopause, sexuality, relationships, family transitions, chronic & acute health challenges, anxiety and other transitions. - [Coming Out, Identity and Authentic Living:](https://miriamgrace.uk/sexuality/) - Links to Miriam's publications and papers below: We are given so many messages from the beginning of our life about who we should be, how we should feel, what we should want, it can be confusing and difficult at times when we may feel that who were are inside doesn't match the expectations of the - [Linktree](https://miriamgrace.uk/linktree/) - Linktree Newsletter Sign Up & Events Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Therapy Website & Info The Manual Sage & Circle Self Care App Wise Women Retreats Correspondence Courses Women of Steel Podcast Women of Steel Instagram Women of Steel Facebook Talking on Woman's Hour Upcoming Events Miriam Grace Bio - [THE MANUAL](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-manual/) - The Manual is a correspondence course of daily journalling reflections up to and beyond the point of coming out. 7 modules of 7 topics, making 50 journalling prompts in all, can be completed daily over a period of 7 weeks or weekly - [Test](https://miriamgrace.uk/test/) - Authentic living Relationships Mid-life & menopause For professionals Blog - [Psychotherapist, Author & Podcaster](https://miriamgrace.uk/about/) - Miriam Grace, Therapist, Supervisor and Lecturer, runs a thriving psychotherapy practice, (originally based in Derby, 1990 - 2017). She now works from her home in Derbyshire, near Sheffield and Chesterfield. Her enthusiasm, care and knowledge for clients resulted in a successful, full time private practice and her skills were enhanced by the experience of working - [Podcasts](https://miriamgrace.uk/podcasts/) - BBC Woman's Hour Aug ’24 – Miriam On BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour On Coming Out Later In Life (segment from 33m50s) Miriam was a guest on BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour, where she gave expert opinions on the topic of women coming out later in life. WOMEN OF STEEL podcast with Miriam - [GROUPS](https://miriamgrace.uk/groups/) - A way of reducing isolation and increasing a sense of identity. My Live Out Loud (online) and Life after Love Workshops (online) are specifically for those around coming out later but open to a wider group. - [RETREATS](https://miriamgrace.uk/retreats/) - WISE WOMEN RETREATS – DERBYSHIRE Retreats are for all women and they are LGBT+ friendly and will be featuring a Couples Retreat (Women Only) in 2027. I am the therapeutic director at Wise Women, creating the programmes and facilitating the therapeutic group work. I work alongside the owner and your host, Justine and we are supported by - [Publications](https://miriamgrace.uk/publications/) - Queering Gestalt Therapy - Routledge New York Times Therapy Today Miriam has published research findings regarding the experiences of women coming out later in life and their experiences of therapy and made recommendations to therapists about their practices with such clients. Enjoying the sunshine and the hardcopy of Queering Gestalt Therapy April 2023 - [MID-LIFE LESBIAN: THE Coming Out Companion](https://miriamgrace.uk/mid-life-lesbian-the-coming-out-companion/) - - The Closet to Clarity Model - This mock-up of the cover contains the yet unpublished model by Miriam Grace with some of the labels missing. New words will arrive on this picture over the next few months and if you check back here you will see the new model BEFORE publication! - [Here for You](https://miriamgrace.uk/here-for-you/) - You have made a powerful and positive step by beginning to search for some answers to your own dilemmas or stimulus for your own growth. I work with kindness and respect for you and your current situation and see my work as a collaboration between you and me. Underpinning all my work is a belief - [Contact](https://miriamgrace.uk/contact/) - To contact Miriam directly, please email her at miriam@blue-skies.org.uk. New phone number: 07308 629488. Blue Skies News from Miriam Grace: To be informed of Miriam’s work, offers and events, subscribe to the Blue Skies Mailing list: Click here to subscribe - [About Miriam](https://miriamgrace.uk/about-2/) - Miriam writes about her history as a therapist: Psychotherapy is a way of life for me and has been for most of my life. I was not unfamiliar with counselling, (having had short experience of it myself as a teen), when I began working with Derby Rape Crisis in 1988. I was initially a volunteer - [THE MANUAL - WELCOME](https://miriamgrace.uk/the-manual-welcome/) - THE MANUAL - correspondence Course (1) - [ANNUAL REVIEW](https://miriamgrace.uk/annual-review/) - Each August I tidy up my records and do a more in depth review of my own diary; work hours; work-life balance and also of each client's process. Join me in this cleaning process ready for the new academic year. 1 I ask you to do a new REGISTRATION FORM I don’t know - [Group Guidelines for Therapy Group 2025 - 2026](https://miriamgrace.uk/group-guidelines-for-therapy-group/) - THE GROUP Welcome to the new therapy group for women who are not straight. Therapy can be intense and painful at times and so I ask that all pay particular attention to the boundaries necessary for safe, therapeutic work. Group Agreements Overview 1 RESPECT for yourself. Pace your involvement in activities for yourself. - [Client Resources & FAQ - unlisted link](https://miriamgrace.uk/client-resources-faq-unlisted-link/) - APPOINTMENT AVAILABILITY I continuing to work via Zoom and face to face in Derbyshire. I have no availability for new clients and my availability will reduce by one place per year. Group Therapy and Post Therapy Groups will become the easiest way to work with me soon. Retreats will be worth considering. You get 10 - [FEES: Payment Structure from April 2025](https://miriamgrace.uk/new-payment-structure-from-april-2025/) - Blue skies scheduling link - click here to book FEES: Therapy is a two way commitment and fees are part of that. If you are already working with me then I am committed to working with your for the duration of therapy and your ability to pay the fees will not affect sessions going forward. - [Client Contract](https://miriamgrace.uk/client-contract/) - My contract is a two way contract of respect for each other (and the group if our work takes place in a group). Respect for me includes your attendance, punctuality and payment, and most of all your honesty in feeding back to me clearly, any problems in our work. Respect for you, includes me showing - [PREPARING FOR YOUR ONLINE SESSION - Client resources](https://miriamgrace.uk/preparing-for-your-online-session/) - Preparing For Your Online Session Welcome to my online sessions. If you’ve worked with me in a face to face situation before or are new to working with me, taking time to check through the information below will help you to make the most of your session time with me. Registration: - [Registration Form - Client resources](https://miriamgrace.uk/registration-form/) - Registration Form For Clients Please complete and return Personal information Name Address for correspondence Address you will be at during the call Mobile phone Email Date of birth Occupation (optional) GP Name Surgery Address Telephone Medical conditions Medication Emergency contact person (name, - [DIGITAL POLICY AND YOUR PRIVACY](https://miriamgrace.uk/privacy-notice-•-consent-form-•-digital-policy/) - CONFIDENTIALITY AND PRIVACY Your confidentiality and privacy is of the utmost importance to me. Everything you tell me is confidential and is only discussed in confidential supervision which all therapists have and where your identity is anonymous. In an ideal situation you would not know me and I would not know you in or from - [Relationships](https://miriamgrace.uk/relationships/) - Work with me individually or as a couple on improving relationships or on good endings. I specialise in relationship dynamics and individual fulfilment in life and harmonising this balance. I offer couples therapy, individual therapy and one-off workshops and retreats. CURRENTLY ON OFFER To help with relationships: LISTEN TO: 2 Podcast Episodes on Estrangement - [x Labas - for our Lithuanian friends](https://miriamgrace.uk/labas-for-our-lithuanian-friends/) - LABAS To our Lithuanian friends, Thank you all so much for your warm and generous hospitality. It was wonderful to work with you in Vilnius. If you have a photograph you would like to share of the event please do email you picture to miriam@miriamgrace.uk Please find lots of resources below and enjoy my website and blog - [x Team Building and Training for Organisations](https://miriamgrace.uk/team-building-and-training-for-organisations/) - Where there are unresolved conflicts within teams, work is less efficient and absenteeism is higher. Blue Skies believes that the skills and values of psychotherapy increase effectiveness and add depth and safety to the team-building and training work they do and that the benefits for the client are long lasting. As an experienced psychotherapist and - [x Group Therapy, Retreats & Workshops](https://miriamgrace.uk/new-coaching-group/) - I am currently running a programme of 3 groups during the year: TENDING TO LOVE AND RELATED INJURIES This is re-named WILL this year. Watch the video here Click on the picture! Eight Week Therapy Group: Daily journalling tasks and reflections. Weekly Zoom Therapy Group. Personal assessment session with Miriam Running daily May - [Professional Services Types](https://miriamgrace.uk/professional-services-types/) - WORKING WITH ME - professionals If you are a counsellor or therapist, student of therapy or work in a related area (health, social work) you can develop your work and knowledge base through supervision and training workshops with me. I have been supervising therapists for 25 years and have run training workshops throughout the UK - [x Life Awakening 2025](https://miriamgrace.uk/life-awakening-with-the-human-trinity-principles/) - Life Awakening with the Human Trinity Principles What if you had the opportunity to review a project half way through rather than at the end? Life Awakening life review with the Human Trinity Principles is just that! This process appeals to all those who can see the benefit of reviewing the most important project – your life – - [x Life Awakening - HTP](https://miriamgrace.uk/human-trinity-psychotherapy/) - Human Trinity Principles (HTP) Trinity means an inseparable three-in-one and the human trinity is body-mind-spirit. The Human Trinity Principles are based on the concept that we are made up of body-mind-spirit and that therapy is quicker, more permanent and effective when all three aspects are worked with. We use the Celtic Triquetra as a symbol (below) which - [x Facebook Posts Week 4 - Planning](https://miriamgrace.uk/facebook-posts-week-4-planning/) - ❣️ It is going to be very important this week to stop and listen to your captain, your soul, you true self or your Will, whatever you call it for yourself. As we revamp our planning methods and overhaul our ‘to do’ lists, the ‘shoulds’ and ‘oughts’ and childhood conditioning will rear their heads. You don’t - [X Life Awakening Testimonials](https://miriamgrace.uk/life-awakening-testimonials/) - Testimonials from the Life Awakening with the Human Trinity Principles Course 'Thank you to Life Awakening for this very much appreciated wake up call, I now feel awake to life and feel much more in tune with myself and those around me.' 'Sometimes I wished I had a magic wand but this was the - [X facebook posts week 2 coach yourself calm](https://miriamgrace.uk/facebook-posts-week-2-coach-yourself-calm/) - MONDAY HEART Repeat your sankalpa in the cave of your heart 3 times HEAD Multiple Choice: A SADNESS B ANGER C FEAR D HAPPINESS 1 Which feeling do you find easiest to express outloud? 2 Which do you find hardest to express outloud? 3 Which do you find easiest to see - [X Facebook Posts Coach Yourself Calm Week 2 TO BETTER FEEL](https://miriamgrace.uk/facebook-posts-coach-yourself-calm-week-2-to-better-feel/) - Monday – Friday Join us on Facebook: Daily threads are symbolised by a heart, a thinking bubble and a hand. Reflective inner voice work will be on the heart thread, planning, strategies and awareness work will be on the thinking thread and habit installation will be on the hand thread. Monday ? Monday's Action Post ? Do - [X EMOTIONAL BODY WORKSHOP [MEMBERS ONLY]](https://miriamgrace.uk/emotional-body-workshop-members/) - WEEK 4: June 28th 2021 Breathe…Out: Letting go and letting be “I am.” “Fear is excitement without the breath.” - Fritz Perls, Founder of Gestalt Therapy "Change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not." - Arnold Beisser "Do, or do not. There is no - [X EMOTIONAL BODY BOOK LIST](https://miriamgrace.uk/emotional-body-book-list/) - BOOKS: This page is still in the construction process! Please enjoy a look and DO revisit later. Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristen Neff Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by - [X Derby Talks Powerpoint](https://miriamgrace.uk/derby-talks-powerpoint/) - Derby Talks 3rd December 2013 You are free to download and watch the slide show. 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In week one when we were looking at the - [X Coach Yourself Calm for Christmas: Preparation](https://miriamgrace.uk/coach-yourself-calm-for-christmas-preparation/) - Click on the links here for two introductory videos: Welcome Video Preparing for the Course Video Welcome Welcome to my nurture and nourish seasonal coaching group, primarily aimed at helping you through the darker and colder months and keeping your well-being as supported as possible. The course allows for everyone's personal - [Book Here with Acuity](https://miriamgrace.uk/book-here-with-acuity/) - https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18123220 - [Menopause and Midlife](https://miriamgrace.uk/menopause-and-midlife/) - One size does not fit all and that's why nationwide programs and self help books don't always meet a woman's unique needs. Besides which menopause and midlife is a changing and variable process, which evolves over a period of time. 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